You Cannot Fear Love & Freely Love At The Same Time

What an August this month has been! 

In addition to adjusting to our nation's new normal, on many personal levels our relationships are shifting as well.  In the spirit of love and dealing with loss let's dive into the thought that you cannot fear love and freely love at the same time.

There's a pure love that exists & if we're patient enough it's my hope that we'll all experience it at points in our life.  Many confuse the toxic love that's been experienced with pure love which results in the fear of love once the relationship doesn't go as planned.  Relationship here applies not only to romantic relationships but also acquaintanceship, friendship, & partnership.

We're led to fear love when the following traits exist in our relationships.

  • Deceit
  • Dishonesty
  • Disrespect
  • Distrust
  • Irresponsibility
  • Lack of communication
  • Lowered standards
  • Judgement
  • Competition
  • Comparison
  • Loss

What we have to realize is that none of the above traits are involved when you encounter TRUE love.  In order to freely love pay attention to the presence of the traits below. 

  • Self love
  • Clear intentions
  • Honesty
  • Respect
  • Trust
  • Responsibility 
  • Clear communication
  • Met or exceeded expectations 
  • Acceptance 
  • Gain

Self love is at the top of the list because we all have to truly love and accept ourselves and our truth before we can freely give or show love to others.  Love is an action word meaning even if our relationships start TRUE, it's our responsibility to maintain & cherish what we have.  This time of staying home & staying together has the potential to draw us all closer together or farther apart if we refuse to do the work.  I encourage us all to be patient and do the work on ourselves first and in the right time together.

Be well & Stay TRUE.